Some regular visitors to this site have pointed out I've been posting more often than normal. That's true: My usual approach is once a week, generally on Sundays. But being a writer facing Lock-Down, I've got time on my hands. Might just as well write. And Post.
So today, how 'bout we take a quick break from virus talk…
I've referred to being on a dating website before but wanted to share this experience. A lady on the site had a message for men: you should look at this guy Evan Katz on Ted Talks. Apparently he could "show you how to use dating sites properly". Now, I can only imagine she's had some bad experiences and that's why she's making this recommendation. I too have had bad experiences on the site so, out of curiosity, I decided to check this dude out and learn about "No More Bad Dates: A No-Nonsense Guide to Online Dating".
Lo and behold, Katz opens by trying to win our respect (?) by sharing the fact that he's had 300 dates as a result of internet dating. 300 dates! Yikes, and that's over a 10 year span. What? He's been on dating sites for over 10 years? He boasts about this as though it's some kind of Herculean accomplishment of success.
Strikes me he's a Grade A Failure.
This is a guy I should listen to? Um, no thanks. I can only hope the lady making the recommendation is using this as a trick question to weed out the bad guys. But…what if she really does admire this man?
I can only see this chap as a massive screw-up of a human being. And as his talk progresses, I can see why he's enjoyed such a lack of success.
Now, I guess if your goal in life is to date tons of people, then yup, this guy wrote the book. But then there are more serious people, like me, who are there to try to find a meaningful, long term relationship with one lady. That’s just a whole lot different than dating 300 women.
Sorry, don’t mean to be cynical, but this dude’s just trying to sell his consulting services and his book. The giveaway? In his speech, he keeps promising he’ll provide all kinds of solutions right then and there… but he never does. What’s the big takeaway from his talk? There isn’t one! (OK, other than “don't just rely on texting: have a phone conversation”. That’s it? That’s the big reveal?) His other disclosure is (wait for it!): "Women want comfort". Wow. Really? Someone ought to ask this guy if he's heard Charlie Lindbergh made it!
The speed demon Katz is so far from being reflective of real men on the dating site who are not there to take 300 ladies to bed, but have the hope of finding that one person to build a life with. Someone to form a meaningful connection with.
Bottom line: if the lady's asking a trick question and she doesn’t really admire Katz, I'd have respect for her. Alternatively, if she really thinks this guy's prescient, she's out there on a whole different wavelength, and I can only feel sorry for her.
I’m just saying...